The Teacher Becomes the Student

Summer is officially here and the ‘Sibling Squabble Showdown’ is in full swing!

DSC_4843So, I devised a plan to combat some of the misplaced frustrations.  It was a plan so simple and so easy, it could only be executed by the use of one simple phrase.

Shorty.  My lovely Shorty.  Super smart, big sister extraordinaire is quite frequently the protagonist of the sibling squabble.  Like many older siblings, she pokes and prods, mimics and harasses, and end with the infamous phrase, “I’m not going to be your friend any more!”

I know…all of this is pretty standard behavior for young kids, but the phrase really bothers me.  I mean REALLY, REALLY bothers me, so after hearing it for the umpteenth time this summer (is it August yet?) I decided to put an end to this, once and for all!

So, without getting upset or without missing a beat, I gave Tiny the perfect retort…”it’s ok. I’m your friend and I love you anyway.”

Genius right?!  KK.pngSo I spent the rest of the day gloating and about my awesome parenting skills!

That is…until the sun rose, and my golden nugget came back to bite me in the bottom!


It started, at breakfast. Captain and I were squabbling over something random at breakfast…in a barely audible whisper Tiny says, “Mom! Tell dad you love him and you’re his friend!”  Cold busted!

She hit me again later in the car day after I dinged him for speeding, busted…again.

I don’t even remember what prompted strike three, but once again, I was “schooled” by my youngest.  I couldn’t believe it!

So, excuse me while I spend the rest of my week “being the change I want to see.”

Lesson learned

Til Death Do Us Part


What if one day you woke up and learned your significant other was going blind?Wedding photos-26

It was an idea that I never considered until I ran across this video by Jubilee Media on Facebook called “Blind Devotion.”  If you have the seven minutes to watch it, I totally recommend it, however, if you’re short on time, I’ll give you the Cliffs Notes version.

A woman learns she’s going blind and decides not to tell her husband.  After carefully watching her he discovers her secret.  She spends the remainder of the video refusing his help…all the while unaware he is secretly helping her.
If I can be honest, the video made me cry…like ugly cry.  A deep, ugly cry that brought to light a very real fear of mine.

The truth is, Captain is legally blind.  When he misplaces his glasses he can’t see—like, at all! While His vision hasn’t gotten any worse during our time together, it certainly hasn’t gotten any better.  If he were to lose his sight, it would change things…a lot.

It would change everything about our family dynamics.  But what wouldn’t change is my love for him.
Having done both, I can say, without a doubt it would be a difficult situation to handle.  But could I do it?  Yep, without missing a beat.  When I said I Do, believe it or not, I actually meant it.  Wedding photos-29Life has thrown us so many curveballs that I realize how well I’ve adapted.

So, readers weigh in?  Would you go above and beyond?
If not, why not?